Dear Jenny, I’m a 29-year-old woman who has battled breast cancer twice. I had lumpectomies in both breasts, chemotherapy, radiotherapy and I’m now on hormone therapy for the next five years. I was in an eight-year relationship, but he left me right after my second diagnosis because of the surgeries and my inability to have kids. It took a while, but now I’m emotionally ready to meet someone. Unfortunately, surgeries left me with scars, hormone therapy made me put on 50 pounds (and stretch marks) and my hair is short due to chemo. I’ve been on a couple of dates, and I don’t know what to say. I don’t want pity, and it’s not like I want to say, “We just met, but just so you know, my breasts have scars and I can’t have kids!” Yet I feel I should say something so they don’t waste their time if they can’t handle it. Any advice on how to manage dating as a cancer survivor? —Warrior in pink
I knew that being a single mom was going to be one of the toughest obstacles I would have to overcome in my lifetime, but I’m currently being tested on my ability to stay strong. For those of you who don’t know me personally, I’m pretty strong-willed. It takes a lot to penetrate my armor, largely because I’ve gone through so much and learned from all of it. But currently, life has me by the balls — and I think I could use your help and advice.