I need some advice. I am 22 years old, a college student and grew up in the Chicago area like you. I have feelings for two guys who, unfortunately, do not want to commit to me. They like to party, drink and go out with their friends — including girls. When I spend time with each of them, we always have fun and there’s a connection, but sometimes I feel like I am wasting my time. I’m not sure if they will ever grow up and want to commit. One guy just turned 21 and the other one is 25 — do you think that these guys will ever want to commit, or am I just wasting my time? I don’t know what to do. Please help!
— Confused and lonely
Jenny says: Without knowing either of these guys, it’s hard for me to give you the answer. However, from my experience, I can tell you that most guys in their early- to mid-20s are not looking to commit (and are you? I mean, you are dating two guys…). There are some who are, of course, but for the most part, guys that age like to party, hang with their friends and pick up chicks. I don’t doubt that they enjoy being with you and genuinely like you, but if you are looking for something long-term, I would continue on your way. Chances are, you won’t find it with either of them.
In the meantime, you’re 22, have some fun yourself! Trust me, when you’re an old cougar like me, you’re going to wish you could relive being single in your 20s all over again. Enjoy!