Steve Santagati is one of the best sexperts in the biz (he was the inspiration behind Gerard Butler’s character in “The Ugly Truth”). His kick-ass point of view offers insight as to what men think, but translated so that we females can understand their foreign language. With Valentine’s Day coming upon us, I thought I would get some tips from the best of the best!
Jenny: What is the best way to attract a guy?
Steve: The best way to attract a man is to dress appropriately provocative and have a running monologue (a monologue you can feel) in your head of how hot you look. Appropriately provocative means six inches outside of your comfort zone; you should feel a tiny bit naughty. It doesn’t matter if you want a dork, a dude or a doctor; all men like sexy. And, by sexy I mean a man’s slightly slutty version of sexy. Making quick eye contact helps as well.
Jenny: What’s the biggest mistake women make?
Steve: They care too much about what other women think of them and they want more from a man then they themselves are capable of offering. All human beings are guilty of both the former and the latter. We forget how truly short life is. We forget that we’ll be happiest not worrying what anyone thinks. We’ll be happiest by being honest with ourselves.
Jenny: If a woman has condoms on her, is she a slut or smart?
Steve: Depends what size they are. Honestly, most men would be “unnerved” by discovering a woman has condoms on her person; they’d be intimidated at her modern mentality toward sex. But, ultimately, most mature guys would be happy about it once they got to know her.
Jenny: What should a girl buy a guy on Valentine’s Day if they only just started dating a few weeks ago?
Steve: This is tricky because I don’t have much to go on, i.e., are they infatuated with one another? Let’s assume it’s a normal, “I like you, you like me” situation, but neither is shopping for a wedding band just yet. The best thing she can do is get him something very small but something that shows she’s been listening to the subtle things he says. For example: He mentions he loves a girl who can bake. She could get him a wooden spoon and an apron and then have him slap her ass with the spoon while she’s only wearing the apron – win win. Even if she baked him some cookies, that would be amazing.
Jenny: Can a girl dress up in lingerie as a Valentine’s Day gift or is that lame?
Steve: It’s kind of lame because it’s hackneyed unless it’s part of a string of little things. What I mean is: Wearing the lingerie can’t be the end game. Maybe you’re playing the drinking game version of Operation in your underwear … then it’s great. The best is when she is subtle about it. Like they’re just normal undies and she doesn’t make a big deal about it.
Jenny: If you are single on Valentine’s Day, do you go out or hide in your bedroom and gorge on ice cream?
Steve: No need to hide. You look to the sky and say: Thank you! Never lament about being single and never let any holiday or institution decide how you see your world. If you want to have some fun you can walk into a romantic restaurant and stand at some couple’s table and just start crying loudly.
Note: When you see a couple together it doesn’t mean they’re happy or that their relationship will last so don’t think, “They’re happy, I’m miserable. I want what they have.” Being single is amazing sometimes! And if by chance you do see a happy couple, wish them well in your head. Positive energy will attract a great mate. If you can’t wish them well then scream, “I banged him last week!” and run away quickly.
Jenny: How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Steve: Under normal circumstances any time before the three-month stage is a bit early. However, falling in love can happen fast and if you feel it, just look into her eyes and tell her, “I’m in love with you, Jenny.” The best way to say “I love you” is by sneaking into it. For example: Start by saying, “I love the way you do this…” or “I love that about you.”
Jenny: Why do girls like bad boys?
Steve: Who cares? It’s working. Women love bad boys and men love bad girls for two very simple reasons 1. Bad boys represent the modern-day alpha male and women are genetically programmed to desire a strong guy. 2. Bad boys aren’t afraid to live life to its fullest. We’re unapologetic about being male but are good at making women feel important. Bad boys help women feel safe being the naughty girl they wished they could always be.
Jenny: How should you tell the guy you are dating his clothes are awful?
Steve: First you have to tell him how handsome he is to you and how great he would look in a certain style of clothes. You’re not saying his clothes suck, you’re saying he’ll also look good in this. You take him shopping and have him try on clothes so he can see how he looks. Show him his sports heroes or men he admires who are dressed the way you like. Later, you can tell him he had horrible taste.
Jenny: Thank you for your honest sexpert-ness steve. You are smart and not bad on the eyes.