“You should love me!” I know that we are all guilty of thinking this thought when we are involved in a relationship. I think it’s a natural expectation to want to be loved by someone else, but is it actually healthy to get it externally? The answer is no. Well, at least that’s what the gurus say.  For those of you thinking “Oh, pshaw to you and your gurus!” I would say to hold your horses and just listen. Let’s ponder for a moment that they are right. Expecting someone to do something for you, like love you, is a pretty tall order, especially when you are supposed to be doing it yourself. Byron Katie, my favorite guru, has taught me that if you offer “advice” to other people you better hurry up and switch one word around in that sentence. Usually when offering advice you begin with, “You should….” Change that “You” to “I,” and watch your own spiritual evolution take place. Every single time. I urge you to give it a try in your own life. Even if you are telling your kids, “You really need to floss.” Stop, turn it around and use “I.” “I should really floss.” And…

“You should love me!”

I know that we are all guilty of thinking this thought when we are involved in a relationship. I think it’s a natural expectation to want to be loved by someone else, but is it actually healthy to get it externally? The answer is no. Well, at least that’s what the gurus say. 

For those of you thinking “Oh, pshaw to you and your gurus!” I would say to hold your horses and just listen.

Let’s ponder for a moment that they are right. Expecting someone to do something for you, like love you, is a pretty tall order, especially when you are supposed to be doing it yourself.

Byron Katie, my favorite guru, has taught me that if you offer “advice” to other people you better hurry up and switch one word around in that sentence. Usually when offering advice you begin with, “You should….” Change that “You” to “I,” and watch your own spiritual evolution take place. Every single time. I urge you to give it a try in your own life. Even if you are telling your kids, “You really need to floss.” Stop, turn it around and use “I.” “I should really floss.” And then follow through!

This is one of my absolute favorite tools Byron Katie has given to the world and I urge you to put it into your toolbox of life skills and start practicing! I’m sorry, let me repeat that … “I should really be practicing this.” HA!

See how it works? Good luck!