When you find yourself caught up in some one else’s life drama, you are no doubt in the wrong kind of business. It’s their business and belongs to them. As my blogs continue to be put out into the blogosphere, I will always give credit to the wise teachers who taught me to become conscious enough to see my foibles and teach me how to evolve. Many times you will hear me mention Byron Katie in my blogs. Again, she taught me yet another valuable life lesson: to mind my own business. This has been an incredibly hard one for me to master so I thought I would share with you so you can maybe figure out how to do it in your own life.
Getting in to other people’s business is obviously the easiest way for us not to deal with our own business and when we get caught up in other people’s lives we often end up missing our own. For some reason, I seem to do it most in relationships with boys. As soon as Cupid strikes me in the ass, I immerse myself into their lives, their drama, their karma, their happiness, their sadness and work so hard to help them while avoiding what’s happening in my own life.
When I woke up from this pattern I was shocked to look back at how much energy I had given out because I was in someone else’s business. Then I had a thought: What if I stayed out of other peoples business and put that energy into my own life – how much more would I accomplish? How much more love could I give to my own family? How much more love would I be able to give myself? I felt like when I plugged my energetic cords into other peoples’ drama I was pausing my own spiritual growth. That sucked. I don’t want to delay that. So, anytime I found myself overly concerned in drama that didn’t belong to me, I immediately stopped, surrounded myself with light, sent some to them, and then observed what was going on instead of become a player.
The best way to become awake to this is to watch your friends and relatives who are constantly caught up in one particular person’s issues. You can witness the emotion and energy they have invested in a situation that has absolutely nothing to do with them. This is how I have learned this lesson best, because when you don’t have an emotional connection to it, it’s much easier to see. Once you find yourself upset in any way about someone else’s business, well, you just fell down the rabbit hole and I can only hope you wake up, unplug and mind your own business.
People really can manage their own karma even if they appear to be hot messes, so stop casting yourself in their dramas and become a star in your own life.